In Spite of Them:

I once was a counselor in a session with a person that was acting "shitty" by their own description.  That person wanted free.  It turned out that the source of their problem was from unresolved grief over the death of their mother.  They had frozen an image of a statue of their mother in their body to try and keep her inspite of death.  I talked to them in the metaphor terms of the inner child.  

They decided to unfreeze their mother's statue.  My observer, who was to just observe in loving neutrality, broke in to stop the healing process.  My observer was not neutral or loving because they had not let go of their mother either.  You sometimes have to continue your healing in spite of your family, your community and your world.  Fortunately the observer broke in too late to stop the healing process.

Job recovered in spite of his community.  Job received the advice of "you are to blame" from his community.  His community wanted a scapegoat.  Job did not receive any support until a man of God came along.  Job did not recovery until  he found his own relationship with God, not his community.  Job and God had to find a good life in spite of Job's community.

It is of service to them to heal in spite of them.  It is of service to find a good life in spite of them, to be a wayshower.


Some people can be unreasonable, illogical and self centered. Love them anyway.

When you do good some people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives. Do good anyway.

When you are successful you can win some false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten by the world tomorrow. Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway.

Some people favor underdogs but follow only top dogs. Assist an underdog anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway.

Some people that really need help attack you if you help them. Help them anyway.

When you give the world your best you may still get kicked in the teeth. Give anyway.



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