Coach's Hint of the Day for the Week

RBD's Wellness Coach's Hints for Fellow Travelers on The Road to Recovery for 25 to 31 May 98.

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25 May 98

We are taught to ask God to forgive us, but He already has.

He knows what we do not know, that caused us to do what we did.

We are taught to ask others to forgive us, but that is not what we

need. We already have God's forgiveness and when others forgive

us, we will still be missing what we really need.

What we really need is our own self forgiveness. Others can

not hold our guilts to us, only we can do that. God does not hold

our guilts on us, only we can do that. So, we are really the one

in charge of ourselves.

We can not make others guilty by our thoughts and actions.

Only they can do that. We only make ourselves guilty by

judging others as guilty. We are indeed judged as we judge.

When we do self forgiveness we are judging ourselves

as innocent, just as God has already judged us as innocent.

When we are doing self forgiveness, we are cooperating

with God. We know we have done enough self forgiveness

when we no longer judge others as other than doing the

best they can with what they are conscious of.

26 May 98

We need to forgive others for the names we call them,

that holds our judgment to us. We need to let go of our

judgments. We can offer to let others forgive us and thereby

help them, but they may not know how to forgive and let go,

or they may not want to forgive. When others forgive us it

will help them and they will be better off. It will not help

us until we do self forgiveness.

As God has forgiven us knowing how we came to do

what we did, how can we be so different to not do self

forgiveness? How can we be so ungrateful as to not

accept His forgiveness? We are the ones with the keys

to the Kingdom, self forgiveness. How can we turn down

this precious gift?

How do we know we have done enough self forgiveness?

We know when when we judge others as doing the best they

can with what they are conscious of. We know when we

judge others as innocent before God. Then we are discerning

as He discerns.

27 May 98

Discerning as He discerns is Living in Loving. Living in

Loving is learning how things work and working them to the

advantage of loving. Living in Loving is not knowing what

that leads to, but discovering what that is a day at a time.

Living in Loving is discovering a piece of what that is a

peace at a time.

Just as I am writing a piece at a time I am discovering

my peace a day at a time. Learning how to live in loving

is learning how to live in peace, when and where others are

not at their peace. In fact their peace is in pieces. They

are fragmented. One of the ways to put our pieces together

is the story shown in my comic show.

28 May 98

Part of the joke is that our universe has all we need to

find our peace and our lord most high within. We have what

we love to reflect our loving. We have what we do not love

yet, to reflect what we need to learn to love. That which we

do not love yet, we are judging. All we need to do is to

clear our judgments.

One way to clear our judgments is to use what I sometimes

put on the back of my business card. That is a forgiveness

formula that works when you work it enough. That is what

you can find on the card below. See, was that not simple?

Have I not Kept It Simple, Sunshine? KISS.

29 May 98

Today I am sharing an article I am writing for our local community

newspaper. It is about what to do about the violence in our schools

that we are hearing about now.

30 May 98

Here we have answers to our challenges with violence in our schools

and we have not found our answers yet. Seek and you shall find. That

means we need to seek to find.

One of set of answers to violence in our schools is in the book

"The Quality Schools" The Quality School and The Quality School Teacher

and Schools Without Failure by Dr. William Glasser, M.D. Bill has a set of

solutions for the public school system, when the parents, public, and principals

are ready to listen. The system is the problem and the system is easy to change.

These system changes are also solutions for businesses, homes, churches,

communes, etc. The fundamentals work everywhere, they are really used.

The home school system could benefit greatly from the same books. I wish

them all well. The book's subtitle tells the whole story of Reality Therapy

& The Quality School in "Managing Students Without Coercion"

31 May 98

The opposite of coercion is freedom. That is exactly how God handles

us. We are given the freedom to learn. We are given love and fun deep

within our hearts. We are given control of ourselves. Strangely, Dr.

Glasser writes that we are all looking for freedom, love, fun, and control.

When we are healthy we are looking for control of ourselves and

not of others or by others. When we are wise we are looking for control

or ourselves by the highest aspects of ourselves. When we are healthy

we are looking for the loving instead of the blaming. When we are

healthy we are looking for the fun in life. When we are healthy we

are looking for our freedom from the controllers, haters, wet blankets,

and bound up people.

What are you looking for today? I am looking for more freedom,

loving, fun, and control of myself.

Your Wellness Coach,

Michael Foster, M. A.

"Learn HOW to recovery by discovering the blocks you need to remove and the actions you need to take and what you need to let go of as your blocks to your blessings."

From my book in process, The Generic Spirituality Cookbook (Recipes for a Better Life)

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27 May 98

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