Coach's Hint of the Day for the Week

RBD's Wellness Coach's Hints for Fellow Travelers on The Road to Recovery for 1 to 7 June 98.

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1 June 98 [DSM 299.00]

Today I am starting to go through the American Psychiatric Association's

Desk Reference to the Diagnostic Criteria from DSM-III-R. DSM IV is

out, but the differences between III and IV have little to do with what I

am sharing.

I am sharing a new way to look at mental illnesses and symptoms.

One of the first illnesses in this book is "Autistic Disorder". The

gestalt I get is that these people are "Attention Challenged". We all

have degrees of attention challenge, from very little to Attention Deficit

Disorder to Autistic Disorder. In fact, you could find in Helen Palmer's

work on the Enneagram, our personalities are defined by how we place

our "Attention". The degree of our disorder is determined by how stuck

we are in that attention. Autistic is just an extreme example of this

stuckness.

It is significant how the parents in the book "Son Rise" helped their

autistic child to come out of his world and into their world. They

joined him in his world until he could find his way to their world.

Simple, but difficult to do. It took a lot of time, love and devotion

for the miracle to finally take place.

They are just stuck in more attention in their mind than their

body in extreme ways.

2 June 98 [DSM 315.00-39]

The next group of disorders in the DSM is intellectual disorders.

This is where we do not have a talent for math, writing, reading,

speaking and listening. Actually, most of us have a challenge in

listening to others.

So, some of us have worse wounds in the areas of intellectual

talent. I know that some with these particular wounds have found

a closer walk with God and have already found their blessing in

disguise. Even the autistic may be closer to God and not able to

tell us.

What to do? The same things as with any other psychic and or

physical wound. Cooperate with the natural healing processes

that happen to be spiritual healing processes. Those are the ones

I have been writing about here for two years now...

They are just temporarily stuck in the body more than the mind.

3 Jun 98 [DSM 315.40]

"Development Coordination Disorder" is the next item in the DSM.

This is lower motor coordination than average for the age of maturity.

I had some of that from my birth wounds. I could not dance until I

learned how to dance with the spirit of my lord most high within.

We do not judge babies as having this disorder because we know

they have a development schedule and that their schedules vary. We

sometimes judge older people when we do not know what their

development schedule is.

We sometimes judge others or ourselves as behind schedule

both mentally and physically. Since we do not really know our

schedule or the schedules of others and only God knows the

schedules, how did we get the arrogance to judge? We simply

did not know better. Another opportunity to forgive ourselves.

They are just temporarily stuck in more attention in their mind

than their body.

4 May 98 [DSM 314.01]

"Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder". ADHD.

The one with ants in their pants. Has some characteristics

of mania in manic depressive. Common for many children to

have more energy than adults can be comfortable around.

We all have degrees of any of these symptoms. This is only

a challenge when our symptoms interfere with the enjoyment

of our lives.

Some children are taught to fight their symptoms

and this increases the strength of them and their symptoms.

From a spiritual growth point of view they need to both resist

and give in to their symptoms. There are times that we can

all practice keeping our attention on our task. It is valuable

to extend the time we can keep our attention on a task. There

are also times that we can practice letting our attention go where

it is going and to practice going with our attention. Both are

practical spiritual skills that are needed in living a better

ordinary life. They are temporarily stuck in the attention pattern

of a hungry hunter.

5 May 98 [DSM 312?]

"Conduct Disorder" is a fancy name for criminal behaviour.

Actually that is a fancy name for angry behaviour. The DSM

number may be 312 and may be just an editorial slip in my edition.

The examples they give are stealing in stealth, running away, lying,

fire-setting, staying away from school, breaking and entering,

destroying property, hurting animals, forcing sex, fighting with

a weapon, starting fights, stealing with confrontation, physically

hurting people. Angry, right?

In all cases they have something different from what they

want and are taking action to get what they want. In effect

they are doing to others what they really want done to them.

When they learn how to love themselves they will not need to

do these things. When they learn how to forgive themselves

they will not need to do these things. They have compulsions

to do negative things. Others have compulsions to do rituals

to avoid negative things. Compulsions are compulsions. They

are trapped in their negative cycles until they learn how to get

unstuck by new generic spiritual skills. Their attention is stuck

on negative behaviour for a while or a life...

6 Jun 98 [313.81]

"Oppositional Defiant Disorder" = Angry, Arguing, Defiant,

Annoying, Blaming, Easily Annoyed, Resentful, Vindictive,

Swearing. Of course these are all signs of anger. These are

again all signs of differences between what is and what is wanted.

They are playing the opposition so it is easier to see their anger.

When they push it is natural for others to push back. It is beyond

natural to join them and then lead them back to reality.

The solutions for them are all the solutions for anger that I have

written here for over two years. The solutions for those that live

around them are all the solutions that I have written about here for

over two years. Those are what I am still learning and learning to

use.

7 Jun 98 [309.21]

"Separation Anxiety Disorder" Young co-dependent.

Excessive fear of being separated from Mother or caregiver.

Again a difference between what is perceived and what is.

The issue can be a metaphor of perceived separation from

God. Again all of the generic spiritual skills to join with God

are the remedy.

Your Wellness Coach,

Michael Foster, M. A.

"Learn HOW to recovery by discovering the blocks you need to remove and the actions you need to take and what you need to let go of as your blocks to your blessings."

From my book in process, The Spiritual Cookbook (Generic Recipes for a Better Life)

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27 May 98

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