Steps on our Road to Recovery

Daily Steps On Our Road to Recovery for 17 to 21 January 2000.

Published Last Week. A daily hint published each day since June 1996. This is past my third year anniversary since starting my web pages. Page Down for the next days that are added a day at a time. I have moved to http://www.recoverybydiscovery.com and this daily page is now here at daily.htm . I would appreciate any feedback, questions and suggestions that you have.

17 January 2000

What happened today?

Another blessing in disguise. For some reason the column I uploaded this

morning, did not replace last weeks columns. It was a column about financial

recovery and sharing that recovery. I have a copy in my other computer and

I decided to use that column for starting a financial recovery section here. So,

that is the blessing in disguise, for what happened today.

Today was a celebration of a powerful peacemaker. That is the paradox,

there is more power in peacemaking. Being a peace does not mean that things

will not change, actually they may really change that way. Change by force

just makes for more force to come back around.

18 January 2000

Today I read about how there is more depression in our world. That makes

sense. We have rising expectations from what we see in all the media from TV

to the web. When we have rising expectations there are two fundamental things

that can happen. One is that we take action to get our expectations. That is the

preferred use of our energy, that rises to get our expectations. The other one is

that we use our rising energy to suppress ourselves. That is what depression is.

We are depressing ourselves instead of using our energy, to get what we want.

That also may be a blessing in disguise. We may have unconscious wants that

rise up when our energy rises up that we may not really want now. We may

have to do more clearing of our unconscious desires and fears before we are

ready to use our rising energy to get our rising expectations. That is what my

coaching is about, getting clear so we can enjoy what we have and work on

what we want.

19 January 1999

What happened today?

My grandson likes to watch a well done children's series

on "Little Bear". And some days he has a good day and says

so, and some days he is having a bad day and says so. Life is

like that. When we have a comforting thought about our bad

day, that thought is from the Comforter. When we have a

upsetting thought about our bad day, that thought is from the

DisComforter. The Comforter is an eternal Optimist. The

DisComforter is an eternal Pessimist.

Today, I was having a bad day. Two of my computers

were not working, probably because the networking program

I was installing changed some thing. So, I had to use my

portable to get things corrected, including some pages that

I had on line with mistakes. I am still in the process of this

and late in getting this page done today. Some days are like

that and the only relevant question is what to do next to make

things better.

20 January 2000

What to do when we hear from our Eternal Discomforter?

There are many things, one of the first is to just watch our

upset, until it calms down, and then we could thank our

Discomforter for returning part of our energy. Your mother

or father or other person in your life may have told you that

it is wise to count to ten when we are upset. Actually, the

number to count to is determined by how upset we are. It

could be in the thousands. We then know what to do that is

best for all concerned after we find our peace. Then our energy

can be used to find more Comfort. That does not mean that we

have to act like a wimp. We may actually use our energy to keep

stronger boundaries. We just will be more effective and stronger

when we are coming from our peace.

21 January 1999

How can we tell we are not being optimistic?

One way is when we catch ourselves doing catastrophic thinking.

Catastrophic thinking is when we have something happen and we

think things will always be like that. For example, someone treats

us in a abusive manor. Then we think that they are always abusive.

When we finally return to our senses, to the present, we see that they

are sometime abusive and many times loving. Then we can once

again focus on their and our loving sides. What we focus on is what

we get more of. When we focus on the negative, that is also what we get

more of. I know which I want to continue working on focusing on. Not

that I always have success with my focus, but when I do not I get to

forgive myself once again. Then I am increasing my batting average.

Very Respectfully,

Michael Foster, MA

Your Recovery by Discovery Coach

https://www.recoverybydiscovery.com

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"Learn HOW to recovery by discovering the blocks you need to remove and the actions you need to take and what you need to let go of as your blocks to your blessings."

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